Collaborative Divorce (CD) is best understood contrasted with traditional, adversarial divorce proceedings. Divorce litigation is far more common than CD, and court may be the right venue for most contentious divorcing couples with children and other assets.
The collaborative route has many advantages over traditional divorce such as more autonomy, privacy, compassion, and holistic process. If you’re interested in less time, trauma, and family disruption, CD may be the way to go. If you are interested in spending less on attorney and expert fees, CD is definitely the way to go. If you are concerned about co-creating a better ending of your marriage, and a more peaceful future, think collaboratively. These are significant considerations about how to create better dissolution endings.
The objective of every CD case is to reach a “DURABLE AGREEMENT”, one that will not later need to be taken to court for reconsideration or modification. Durability is critical if you have kids: even though you will no longer be husband and wife, you will still be part of the family you created together. You will always be co-parents.
CD is not for everybody, but it may be right for you. If it’s right for you, but not your spouse, it is not an option: you both must be willing to cooperately find a more peaceful path forward.
I am a member of:
- International Association of Collaborative Professionals (IACP)
- Collaborative Law Professionals of Pierce County (CLPPC); and
- Thurston County Collaborative Professionals (TCCP)
I do not handle contested divorce cases.